Well there are times when we meet people and they leave a deep impact on you. Sometimes because they have a very prominent personality, they are great achievers or sometimes because they have undergone huge trials. I met one such woman in a gym i joined recently. She would be around 34, has a typical brown indian skin..in short any average woman you meet. She has a very fiery personality and is very confident. No one can tell her to be the mother of a 17 year old son. Yup, she was married at the age of 15 to a man who was then of around 35..that is back then he was 20 years older to her. At the age of 16 she became pregnant and soon a mother. You cant expect a kid to take care of another kid, so the child was sent off to her elder sister . And till now her child has not been returned to her. Her aged husband soon grew a complex,he made her stop going out and fed her to such an extent that she became fat,really fat..his explanation..now you like you are of my age.
After few years and lot of struggle she got hold of her life,gripped it with whatever fervour she had. She got herself educated, got a job and she even got herself into shape. All of it without the support of anyone.
People around her instead of supporting her started throwing comments on her character, started building up stories with whatever detail they got. And surprisingly those people consisted most of women than men. I could never understand why a woman never supports another woman, why they cant understand her psychology and problems when most of them go through the same trials..men never do that. They even support each other when they know the person in question is wrong. And a woman just smirks,throws some mud and then faces the same situation herself sometimes later.
But whatever hardships she faces daily she doesn't mind it. I tried discussing this with her and she was like" if i start caring about what they say then i'l have to live a life like them. You can't get best of both the worlds. You either live a life of sacrifice and be pitied or a life you want and be scorned.".
So, for now that brave woman is having a job,living with her 55 year old husband(i don't know the chemistry they share but i am curious) and is looking forward to have a baby she can call her own. I wish before i leave i get to hear this good news too. I wish all love for a woman who fought for her happiness and achieved it.
After few years and lot of struggle she got hold of her life,gripped it with whatever fervour she had. She got herself educated, got a job and she even got herself into shape. All of it without the support of anyone.
People around her instead of supporting her started throwing comments on her character, started building up stories with whatever detail they got. And surprisingly those people consisted most of women than men. I could never understand why a woman never supports another woman, why they cant understand her psychology and problems when most of them go through the same trials..men never do that. They even support each other when they know the person in question is wrong. And a woman just smirks,throws some mud and then faces the same situation herself sometimes later.
But whatever hardships she faces daily she doesn't mind it. I tried discussing this with her and she was like" if i start caring about what they say then i'l have to live a life like them. You can't get best of both the worlds. You either live a life of sacrifice and be pitied or a life you want and be scorned.".
Touching. ;(
ReplyDeleteIt is known that women don't support women. may b its in their feminine nature. They should.
i liked the way u described it, as if telling a story with a straight face. :)
Continue doing it. :)